Being part of a bridal party is an exciting honor! It means that you are the support group, hype-people, and on the front line of a wedding day. It also means you have big responsibilities and the couple has selected you out of all their friends to stand with them on their big day. That’s a big deal. Remember: the couple went through a lot to select their wedding party and it is your job to be the best bridal party ever!
Picking a handful of people to stand up with you on what is most likely the most important day of your life is no easy task. A couple has to weigh all the details before selecting their wedding party—the size of the wedding, expectations for the bridal party, including family members, etc. It’s best to think carefully of who you want to be a part of your bridal party before asking them because it’s not something you can take back. Here are a few of our best tips for couples choosing their bridal party:
Do not include someone just because they asked you. Make sure you actually want them to be there for you on your special day—no need to “return the favor.” Just because your friend wanted 8 bridesmaids and included you does not mean you have to include her, especially if you only want 2 bridesmaids. Everyone’s circumstances are different. Good friends will understand.
Don’t let “rules” hold you back from choosing the people you do want to stand up for you. Here is your permission to be non-conventional! Just make sure you are choosing the people who truly mean a lot to you and support you.
Select bridesmaids and groomsmen that have supported your relationship, not necessarily the people you always imagined standing in your wedding.
Talk to your partner about including siblings.
There are more roles to fill on your wedding day. Make sure to select friends or family members as attendants, ushers, or for any other role.
So you’ve been selected to be a bridesmaid! Congratulations! Bridesmaids have an awesome role to fill leading up to and on the wedding day. Here is a list of duties that you have so you can be the best bridesmaid possible:
Groomsmen also have an exciting job in the months and days leading up to the wedding. Here’s a list of duties to keep in mind as a groomsman:
If you have been selected to be the maid of honor or best man, you have a special role to play! It’s likely you will be a witness that signs the couple’s marriage license. The couple has selected you to play an incredibly important part on their day, but your role also comes with added responsibilities. To be the best best man or maid of honor possible, take care of these things:
Hey—we are Jacob and Amanda Rousary, married Chicago wedding photographers. We know that a lot of planning goes into your big day, so we created this as a resource for bridal party members and for couples to share with their bridal party. Need someone to capture all the incredible moments of your special day? Contact us here!